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A 'Bloody Mess'

The Red Cross won't comment on possibly contaminated blood pints that were supposed to have been recalled between 2003-2006, reports CNN News. There is no way of knowing if that blood was discarded or given to people in need of it. Copy and paste the link below onto your browser to read the entire story.  http://www.cnsnews.com/ViewNation.asp ?Page=/Nation/archive/200803/NAT20080326b.html
And this is not the first time you would read about the Red Cross and its mishaps to put it lightly. But unfortunately, we are not taking about the wrong size needles or huge band aids. We are talking about life and death when some innocent patient gets infused with blood containing HIV, CJD, Hepatitis A, B or C. It really is a 'bloody mess.' So last Monday when I went in to donate blood for the second time, I was a little apprehensive about the whole thing. In fact, versus the last time I made it a community effort, I didn't feel right about publicizing this blood drive until I was absolutely sure that the process was safe and that there was no way one's health could be compromised by giving life (blood).
So this time, I asked the volunteer to take me through the whole process. I asked as many questions as I could possibly think of. The volunteer, a lovely young lady, assured me that all the pints, the tubes attached to the pints and the needles are made brand new, exclusively for the American Red Cross. She went on to explain  that the donor's arm is sanitized extensively before injected and that the workers constantly change their gloves eliminating all possible contamination.
I sighed with relief after getting  a better understanding of the process. She had no comment however, on the article above and I don't blame her. She proceeded to ask me all the questions she is mandated to ask to determine my eligibility to donate blood. Now I always get tickled when it comes to the SEX questions. They go something like this: "In the past twelve months, have you had sex with anyone who has the HIV virus... In the past  twelve months have you been in contact with someone with hepatitis A, B or C?" To which I answer, "I will save you the time. I haven't had sex in over ten years so please feel free to tick 'no' on all those." With a look of utter shock she informed me that she has to ask them anyway. At least she didn't offer to pray for me like the volunteer before. When I informed her that I was celibate, she let out a sympathetic laugh and said, "girl I will be praying for you." Go figure!
Anyway, I can now post flyer's through out my community letting my neighbors know that it is safe to give blood to the American Red Cross. When I say, "Hey Neighbor ! Let's Build A Community by giving life" It will be with much conviction and confidence that their blood won't get messed up.

What is Newsworthy?

What kinds of stories are deemed newsworthy by the media? "I wonder." Are they stories on murder, drugs, violence, war? Well, when I wanted other neighborhoods to adopt my idea of building a community where they live, I thought, "What better place to start than the my local media?" So I  wrote ABC's affiliate WCVB, CBS's affiliate WBZ, NBC's affiliate WHDH and last but not least, FOX NEWS, about our community.  Here's a copy of one of my letters:
  

Dear Sir/Madam,
 

I am writing because I am a Watertown resident and a finalist in a reality TV series on Lifetimetv.com, called the Clean Start Challenge. It is a competition where all ten finalists are working to achieve their goals in ten weeks. My goal is to build a community.

Where I grew up, it took a village to raise a child but lately, people hardly know their next door neighbors, thus my quest to build a community. I have named my endeavor: Hey Neighbor! Let’s Build A Community. It has been four weeks into the competition and as a community, we are making progress. We participated in a very successful blood drive at the Watertown Free Public Library and sent a card to The New England Patriots letting them know that in our eyes, they will always be champions. I have many more activities planned.
This Saturday the 23rd from 1:00pm to 5:00pm, we having a "Get-To-Know-You" lunch at the Library in the Watertown Savings Bank room. All the food is being donated by our local community restaurants namely: Asiana Fusion, Main Street, Not Your Average Joe's, The Upper Crust and a few others. Drinks are being donated by Stop & Shop.
So, we would really like it if YOU could tell our story. I would like other people who long for some semblance of a community to see that if me, a single mom can say "hey neighbor" they can too.

I proceeded to give them my contact information but to my surprise, none of them responded. I wrote again and still no answer. In the meantime, there was a mix-up with our hall which led to the event being postponed, giving me more time to make contact with my local TV stations. I kept writing in hope that someone would take an interest in our story, then it dawned on me that they just didn't consider it Newsworthy. If I were a reporter, I would have jumped on this one.

On a brighter report, I found that my town has it's very own community station, WCATV and they were thrilled to learn about what I am doing, and are happy to report on it and keep track of my progress. Now that is Newsworthy and I am happy to report that our community will be featured on WCATV in it's efforts to come together, help each other, inspire other communities  and make a difference.

Clean Start Challenge Ends

This week marks the end of SC Johnson's Clean Start Challenge on MyLifetimeTV.com. I am glad to have been a part of it. Even though I have always wanted a community, I never thought I would go out of my comfort zone and build one. I have taken ownership of this because I really believe that is it imperative that we connect with each other and create an environment where we feel safe, loved, cared for, supported and important.

I met with an old business associate to find out how to build a website. I could have met with anyone but I love the simplicity of his website( www.brilliantmove.net ) and want our community website to be simple, user friendly, interactive and posses a sense of community. I learned so much i.e. you can't incorporate flash with html because most search engines don't recognize html. At this point, my head was spinning. I realized that I am going to have to spend some money to get what I want. When it came to domain names, HeyNeighbor.com, HeyNeighbor.net, HeyNeighbor.org and HeyNeighbor.us were all taken. Unbelievable!

Watertown Savings Bank is still to make a decision about their contribution to our troops. I wrote to CVS's corporate office and still awaiting an answer from them too. Wow! This is not easy. It is a lot of work but I am looking at he end. See, you need to determine your end from the beginning or else you can easily be thrown off course.

My book club, Hey Neighbor Let's Read Together, met again. It is every fortnight but with the flu and all, it seems as though we haven't met in a long time. I had two ladies come over and the book we are reading is "Woman Thou Art Loosed" by T.D.Jakes. It encompasses everything that relates to healing the wounds of the past. No one can grab a hold of their future while still holding onto their past. I am so glad to be a part of the healing and transformation of these ladies' lives. I will continue to send out an invite to all the ladies in my community, especially those whose email and phone number are in my community database.

As for me, cleaning is a joy. So, when I cleaned a neighbor's apartment, I couldn't be happier that someone took me up on my offer to clean their home for free. Yes! some people call me nuts to even offer but I beg to differ. "Nuts" is us going on without helping and caring for each other.  I showed up at her door with three assistants, Pledge, Windex and Scrubbing Bubbles." I slipped on my rubber gloves and got to work. We talked, we laughed and really bonded. I showed her cleaning tips and tricks to make her home appear like she labored for hours cleaning. We was amazed by the whole experience and what got her the most was finding out the "million and one things" Windex alone can do. I used it on the stove, the knobs on the stove, sinks, mirrors, and glass just to name a few. At the end, she was so grateful and offered to volunteer if I go cleaning any other homes in our community. So in an hour, I not only gained a volunteer but made a friend. It was that easy.

My week ended by picking up all the trash that the wind had blown all over my neighborhood and just saying hello to people. "Everyone has the power for greatness—not for fame, but greatness, because greatness is determined by service" Dr.Martin Luther King Jr.

My week in brief...

Set Back...
My neighbor the high school student who was going to build our community website is unable to do so. Not so long ago, I met with her web design teacher in hope that her whole class would build our website as she had suggested. The teacher had informed me that since every student has their big project, this would be hers, to which she agreed. But I received an email from her saying that there must have been some miscommunication because she was under the impression that her teacher would build it and she would help him. She is a smart young lady and even though she is unable to build the website, I am thrilled that she is still involved in building our community and available to help.

More Money...
Two of my neighbors knocked on my door to give me their donation to our troops and that got me thinking of involving the whole town, as a few of my neighbors had previously suggested.
I asked our local CVS manager if we could set up our table in front of the store to collect more money for our troops. He agreed to it and we set up our table with our army stuff. We promised not to solicit but only tell people what we were doing if they approached our table. This Saturday was very breezy, we almost lost a picture. (you'll see what I mean when I post a replica of our set-up) The response was divided there as well; some were for the war and some were against it. Many people came by and gave their money but asked if we were legitimate. I told them that we were being sponsored by Lifetime TV and SC Johnson, A Family Company, to build a community where we live and raising money for our troops was one activity we were doing as a community. At the end of the day, one of the managers, Bob, signed off on the entire collection. He helped us count the money and  accounted that we had altogether collected $262.81.

Connecting...
I emailed and called my neighbors in my database to keep them abreast of upcoming events, what is happening with Hey Neighbor, Let's Build A Community. I got a few calls and emails back with people's interests and suggestions on what to do as a community. My favorite was one who wants our community to visit the elderly. I am working on that and I'll keep you updated.

Family...
My daughter continues to inspire me. We recently went to the pediatrician for her annual check up and she is excellent health but also growing up rapidly. She is five feet one inch tall. I told her that my heels are just going to have to get taller, to which she teasingly replied, "In that case mom, we going to have to get you stilts." I can't help but marvel at the woman she is becoming. Where have the years gone?

Support Our Troops.

This week, I thought our community would come together to rally behind our troops and support them by raising money to send care packages to them. I called a friend of ours who I knew would have some army memorabilia and boy, did he have stuff for us.

My daughter and I drove to Wilmington to pick up the stuff and couldn’t wait to set it up and begin raising money.  It was really cold outside so we decided to wear our snow pants, thick sweaters and hats.  We had a sign up sheet with: Name, Email address and Amount Given columns for people to fill out.

The response was divided. Some people gave us money but made mention that they are not in support of the war. Others gave us money and thanked us for what we were doing. One neighbor approached us and said, “Well I don’t support the war. I believe if we keep giving them money, they’ll stay there but if we don’t send them anything, they’ll come home”. I explained to him that we were in no way making a political statement but were out there in support of our troops because they are fighting for our freedom to agree or disagree with the war.

At the end of the day, I thought I’d ask Watertown Police to be our accountability partner and point us in the right direction to accomplish our goal. See when people give you their money you need to be accountable to someone. But I was shocked at the police’s response. The officer asked me why I wanted them involved. He proceeded to tell me that they have their own programs and in the meantime, I tried injecting my purpose for the call but he wouldn’t hear of it. He smugly told me that if I wanted to send money to our soldiers, I should go to the post office.  Well, Edna and Brian were the last two donors and they were our accountability partners. We had collected $ 115 and were exhausted.

 My heart goes out to every mother who has lost a son or a daughter. To every dad who will never go fishing with his son again. To every wife that goes to bed crying. To every husband who holds a picture instead of his wife. To every child who asks, “Mommy when is daddy coming home?” To every child who asks, Daddy, “When is mommy coming home to make dinner?" To every American who holds a flag in place of a loved one. I salute you and thank you from a mother’s heart for your sacrifice.

As a nation we don’t say thank you enough. My daughter and I have resolved to say thank you every time we see a man or woman in uniform. We pray for God's protection over them in every foreign land. We pray for God's provision for their families left behind. And for a speedy return home, safe from the terrors of war.  We support our troops.  SUPPORT OUR TROOPS.

The hard work, the anticipation...

The hard work, the anticipation and the preparation all led to that climatic moment when I received a call from my friend Marina saying, "Sharline hurry back. We have two people." "Two people?" I almost screamed with joy. I put up that last flyer on an apartment building and met a young lady moving in. She was curious about what I was putting up. I told her briefly what was happening in the community and invited her and her friends to the lunch. I made a three point turn in the road and sped off, even though the library is five minutes from my house.

The day had started off with sleet and snow so I prayed. I was a little worried about the turn out. I did my hair in a hurry and rushed to the library. The set up seemed to fly by. My sister and I rushed to Stop & Shop to get the drinks, then to Not Your Average Joe's to pick up the food and then to the library to unload the car.

I had rushed home to change when I got the call that we had two people. I welcomed the guests and directed them to the buffet style lunch. The music in the background was soft piano because the voices that I wanted eminent were of people getting to know each other. Below is a picture of me giving a presentation detailing our mission, our goal and vision for our community. Actual slide show coming soon....

 

 

 Me having fun and just hanging around!

   

And here are a few more pictures from the event.

    

Thank you Efrance, Samone and Marina. I could never have done it without you.

Elizabeth, you continue to be my inspiration.  I love you to pieces...

ONE GREAT BIG THANK YOU TO ALL MY NEIGHBORS WHO CAME OUT TO DO THE "GET TO KNOW YOU DANCE". I AM FALLING IN LOVE WITH EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU AND I KNOW WE ARE OFF TO A GREAT START. THANK YOU TO: THE UPPER CRUST, NOT YOUR AVERAGE JOE'S, MAIN STREET PIZZA & STOP & SHOP. WE ARE FOREVER GRATEFUL.  

The Flu

I hate being sick especially because it has kept me away from my neighbors and doing much to win this competition. Yes! Even though am going after what I want, which is a community, this is still a competition. As I lay in bed and wait for my daughter to bring me a glass of passion fruit juice, It is deja vu. Growing up in Uganda, getting malaria was inevitable. The fever,the chills, the hallucinations, It is all happening again. But only this time, I am in my bed in Watertown, Massachusetts battling the flu. I refuse to go to the  doctor because all I'll get are antibiotics and I am against them. I believe that if we take them all the time, our bodies will get used to them and when we really need them, they won't work. So poor thing, she is stuck at home during her vacation week, with a sick mother who is beaten pretty hard by the flu but refuses to go down without a fight.

Overwhelmed...

I am so overwhelmed by the love and support from my neighbors and area restaurants. When I spoke to Main Street Pizza awhile back regarding Hey Neighbor! Let's build a community luncheon, Arthur smiled and said, "You didn't have to tell me all that. How many pizzas do you need?" When my daughter and I walked into The Upper Crust, Ryan smiled and asked us if he could help. Well, I began to tell him why we were there. He almost cut me off by saying, "Please sit. What pizza would you like to try. We tried our favourite pepperoni and he pulled out and sheet of paper and asked, "When is your event and how many pizzas would you like? "Walking into Not Your Average Joe's was a risk. I wasn't sure they'd say yes but Rich heard what we had to say about our community, told us to wait for a few minutes while he spoke to Alison the manager. He emerged from the back office a few minutes later with pad and paper ready to take or requests. "Since there are a few people doing pizza, what do you think about sandwich platters, salad,...." He lost me at the platters. Sujay at Stop and Shop was ready to put those drinks in the fridge on short notice. Wow! I thought I'd jot this down because I'd forgotten to mention how so overwhelmed I am. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

A conversation with Libby Gill

My phone rang at precisely 8:00 pm. I know this because I was waiting by the phone. I could hear her voice but she couldn't hear mine. Comcast, you owe me big time. Just kidding!!! I got a call from Lifetime telling me that Libby Gill was trying to get in touch with me. They gave me her number and I called her right back. "Hi Sharline!" was the cheerful voice on the other end. Right from the start, she had a way of making me feel at ease. It was so easy talking to her. I had written down everything I wanted to ask but quickly forgot that list as she began to commend me for what I am doing. We had an instant kinship that I cannot explain. She shared from the purity of her heart. From each word flowed wisdom that stemmed from personal experience. That just goes to support the saying: a man with an argument is no match for a man with an experience. I am still in awe.

She advised me to get a community website with on-line tools and ideas to teach others how to build a community. She encouraged me to start small and keep building and to never give up. She said that there will be people who will not be on board and I should learn to let them go. I have been struggling with this. I couldn't figure out why the same people who say they miss how things were are reluctant to get to know their neighbors. She mentioned that in her community they have a block party and I am planning one in the summer. There was so much more but I wouldn't do it justice if I tried to put it down on paper. The most important thing is taking what she has given me and using it to  achieve my goals in the Clean Start Challenge.

I thanked her for taking the time to coach me through this part of the journey of my life. She was so gracious, so real and just an amazing woman. To learn more about Libby Gill, please go to her website http://www.libbygill.com/.

Divine Appointments.

Only God can orchestrate the appointments in our lives that change us for the better. Yesterday, I leapt with joy when one of my neighbors called me to apologize that she can't make it to the community lunch we are having on Saturday. You are probably wondering why I would be happy about that. Well, I'll tell you what made me happy. See, even though she can't make it this time, she is thrilled about the idea that her neighbor wants to get to know her. She very much wants to get involved with building this community and the icing on the cake is when she asked, "What can I do to help you?" "Mhmm...mhmm came my stammer because I was thrown off with the question. I told her what my mission is and what my goals for our community are. She has great ideas that we are definitely going to implement. We talked for about 30 minutes about our families, life, our neighborhood and so much more. We have 'tea & crumpets' planned for next week in my home and my daughter and I can't wait to meet her. In her own words, "We are becoming fast buddies." I am so thrilled.

Another such appointment is coming up this week. Lifetime TV has arranged a meeting with me and the Host of "Get Overt It!" talk-radio on karma Air, Dallas Morning News Columnist, Best selling Author of "Traveling Hopefully" and Advice Expert, Libby Gill. WOW! I am so blessed. I can't wait to speak with her. I must admit that I am a bit nervous because I have so much that I want to ask her but don't know where to start. I am confident that when all is said, I'll be better for having spoken to her.